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Ask Some Important Questions Before Getting Serious in Relationship

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When you are thinking too serious about someone special in your life, you start making a lot of plans about your future. But, it is important to think before things became really hot between you two. You must have shared many thoughts and dream with him/her, but it is equally important to know his/her views and thoughts on the same before you take the next step in life. It is important to know and check that you are on the same page and you are thinking alike. Is he/she also feeling the same what you are feeling for him/her? Therefore, it becomes more important to ask a few important questions to understand what he/she feels about you and your special relationship.

What are his/her future plans?: You should always ask this question to that someone special before you create your own fairy tale with him/her. Ask what he/she thinks about you? What are his/her future plans with you? It is important to know what he/she feels about you and keeping your future in mind as future couple. If he/she thinks that you two should remain as good friends as you are today, then you should hold your emotions back and move on.

Is he/she is ready for commitment: This is another big question in front of those who are in a relationship. You love to be with each-other. You love to spend more time together, but you don’t want to make any commitment or promises in relationship. You are happy with your open relationship where you have fewer expectations and liabilities towards each-other.

What is cheating for you?: This is another important question to ask him/her before you became serious in the relationship. What he/she thinks about cheating and what will be their reaction and something similar he/she will face in the future? For some people online intimacy or chatting with someone is acceptable, but some people will count it as cheating. Therefore, it becomes more important to know how he/she will react if something similar happens in the future.

Do you mind to accept this relationship publicly?  Ask him/her that whether he/she would mind to discuss about your relationship with anyone. There are many people who don’t like to discuss about their relationship with anyone else. There are many people who don’t want to make their relationship public and always want to keep it secret.

Is he/she ready to face any worse situation for you?: Making commitment is one thing and taking a strong stand for your commitment is another thing. Is he/she ready to stand for your relationship if things go south in the future? Is he/she ready to face anything for survival of your relationship? If he/she also feels equally strong about this relationship or he/she is ready to stand by you in all the circumstances, then you need not to worry about this relationship and its future.

Is there is something which you should know?: This is another important thing which you should consider before taking a next step in your relationship. Ask is there something which you should know before getting serious about this relationship. Is there something which you should know before taking this relationship to next level, be it about his/her past, family, any other past relationship or something which might affect your future?

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Do You Bother About Inter-Caste Marriage?

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Marriage in India is considered as one of the biggest event of once life. If there is someone in marriageable age in the family you always want him/her to get marry in the same caste or community. Why we all the time condemn inter-caster marriage so much? Why we want to marry someone from our own community? We all must have heard this from our parents that we don’t want you to go for inter-caste marriage. We are ok with your love marriage, but not with inter-caste love marriage. This is something really strange that in present tech-savvy world too we consider inter-caste marriage as stigma. Do you think that our generation next too thinks about it in the same manner? Do you think that they also mind about marrying someone from a different caste or community? Here, we are sharing some of the reasons why we still prefer inter-caste marriage and a survey finding what our new generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

The younger generation believes that there is no harm in marrying someone from a different caste. They don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if they find him/her compatible. But one the reverse side parents want that their kids should marry within their caste, be it arranged or love marriage.

Rashmi Soni, 28 years, Senior Creative Designer, MNC, Gurgaon said that she does not mind marrying someone from a different caste or community if she will find him understanding and compatible. She also mentioned that her first preference is to find a life partner who is understanding and professionally stable, rather than marrying someone from the same caste who is not at all compatible.

In another conversation with Investment Banker, Anurag Singh, 30 years, shared with us that he too doesn’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if that girl is mature and intelligent. He wants to marry someone who is understanding and prove to be a better-match. For him caste has nothing to do in married life except celebrating festivals differently. But, this is a very small thing in front of other issues which you face if you marry a wrong person.

Lakhshita Tonk, 27 years, working as Financial Analyst with a financial firm in Hyderabad, said that she likes someone in her office and planning to get married soon. He is from a different caste and she mentioned that if there is no problem in working someone from a different community. You can be good friends if you are from different caste why you can’t marry someone from a different caste. She mentioned that understanding and compatibility has nothing to do with caste. This is just a norm which we all follow to get the societal acceptance to our relationship.

Dinesh Garg, 26 years, Senior Risk Management Analyst, CA firm Pune, said that he is working in Pune with a CA firm and earning good. He mentioned that he will not bother much about the caste of his life partner if he finds someone compatible and a perfect match. He wants someone who will be understanding and supportive. He wants someone who understands his professional liabilities and mature enough to handle situation at her own. So, caste is not the main criteria for marriage, but a better match with higher understanding is preferred.

We, also discussed the same topic with parents and here we find that they have a different opinion altogether. However, there are many reasons behind their logic and not supporting inter-caste marriage. Let’s take a look what our senior generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

Rajat Jha, 54 years, PWD officer, is looking for a match for his daughter. He is looking for a groom from his own caste. He is not in favor of marrying his daughter in different caste. He said that marrying our daughter to different caste will create pressure for her. It will be difficult for her to adjust with new rituals and new things in life. We love to do thing the way we see them from out childhood. It is difficult to follow new rituals and get adjusted. Therefore, he doesn’t want to search someone from a different caste.

Kuldeep Nair, 58 years, Banker is also not convinced with the idea of finding a match for his son/daughter in different caste. He said that it might be it will take some time to find a good match or a perfect match within the community, but it is not difficult. He further mentioned that we are Pandit, we follow certain rituals and traditions which are different from other communities. I don’t want that my daughter or daughter-in-law will follow some different rituals. It will create problem and make life more complicated for the member to get adjusted with new styles and traditions. He further added, if you get married in a different caste you feel like that you are from a different planet and have nothing to say, rather just to follow everything blindly.

Santoshi Mathur, 60 years, Teacher is also not really happy with this changing trend. She said that nowadays, kids are going for love marriage and they prefer to marry someone who is equally qualified, smart, intelligent and compatible. So, they don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste. But, as a parent we know that our society does not easily accept an inter-caste arranged marriage. It will further affect our future search for our other kids. Therefore, she also believes that inter-caste marriage is not a good idea as it reduces of getting a good match within the caste for other kids in the family.

Why you should do inter-caste marriage? Why you should not do inter-caste marriage?
Caste is not the problem in any marriage Social acceptance is lower
You will learn new customs and rituals Lower chances of finding a better match for other kids within community
You feel that now you are part of two different societies Adjustment issues in accepting and learning new customs and  rituals
You feel more connected Cultural differences
You start respecting other customs and make you more mature People still consider it as stigma

 

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Appreciate Your Husband to Strengthen Your Relationship

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The relationship of husband and wife is built over trust and love. It is one of the most important and integral part of married life. Apart from love and appreciation, you also require a lot of things to get going and enjoy a happy relationship. Appreciating your husband doesn’t mean that you are buttering him or you have some hidden desires because of that you are praising. But, true appreciation with pure feelings is very important to show your love and to strengthen your relationship with husband. We all love words of appreciation and similar thing exist in our marriage as well. Your husband also expects word of appreciation from you to feel great. Here, we are sharing some tips to appreciate your husband and strengthen your relationship.

Appreciate his efforts: If he is doing something for you out of love or because he is worried for you. It is important to appreciate his efforts. If he is good with something like collecting something, or he is very organized or something which you think that you must acknowledge, so appreciate his efforts.

Appreciate his taste: We all have some special qualities and your husband must be having something special. If his fashion sense is outstanding and he is good with it, then don’t forget to mention it or appreciate it. If he is too foodie and loves to explore and experiment with food, or loves to explore new places, then appreciate him and enjoy his company.

Show your trust: No relationship can survive in the absence of trust and faith. Always show your trust and faith in him. When you discuss anything with him or he asked you to take some important decision because he thinks it is good for your family, then show your trust in his decision. While taking important decisions ask for his opinion and views. Take his help and show him that you believe in him.

Praise him for his decision-making ability: When he makes some important decisions like financial decision, professional decision or something else, respect his decision skills. In such situation where his decisions helped you to sail through bad time, don’t praise his decision-making skills. Show your trust in his right decisions.

Show him respect: Respecting your partner is very important. Respecting your partner doesn’t mean that you never say anything or put your opinion. Showing respect to your partner means you respect and love him for what he is. Make him feel that he is your hero and he is perfect for you. He must feel special and great for being what he is.

Don’t forget to compliment: If he is looking good, then don’t forget to tell him that he is looking handsome or great in your own ways. Complimenting your partner will help in strengthening your love with your partner.

Compliment his patience: For instance, if he is visiting some showroom with you to buy something and he is being patient with it then respects his patience. He will be more than receptive when your next request comes later on. Appreciating him and complimenting his effort will make him feel that he holds some special place in your heart and life.

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Want To Stay Happy After Marriage? Accept Your Partner’s Flaws

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We all want to enjoy a happy and blissful marriage. All of us enter into this blissful relationship with the hope that everything is really fair and shiny. Once your honeymoon is over, you land into the reality of the marriage, where you both return to your workplaces with extended responsibilities of home. You also face the new responsibility of sparing some extra time for each-other. In such stiff situation, there are chances that your spouse may not have it all what you expected. You are two different personalities and your thought process and attitude towards life is also different. So, in such a new environment when you find it hard to maintain balance, the trick to stay happy is finding, something which is common between you. Here are some tricks to make your happy marriage.

Accept each-other honestly: In this relationship, it is important that you stay happy and accept your spouse honestly. A relationship which is based on mutual understanding and trust can make your life journey easy. There comes a time when you and your spouse don’t agree over something and you both are firm on your decisions. Always remember that you and your spouse have some flaws and you both are not perfect. Find a midway and accept each-other with not only the good side of your spouse, but with flaws as well.

Don’t put conditions on your love: Conditional love is something when you love your spouse when your requirements or wishes are fulfilled. But, such kind of love is not love, but materialistic expectations from your spouse. This kind of love will lead to marital troubles.  Therefore, don’t put conditions on your love to enjoy the blissful married life.

Don’t try to change your spouse: This is one thing which most of us keep trying in our married life. Or at times you make it agenda of your life to bring changes in your spouse. Your spouse is an individual with different thought process and personality. If you try to force your ideas on your spouse, you will surely face a negative response or might be very strong reaction. Therefore, always keep this in mind that you are there to make things better not to make things worse.

Appreciate the positive side: You should always appreciate the positive side of your spouse. There must be something which is unique and different in your spouse. Instead of looking at the flaws, focus on the positive side of your spouse. Don’t forget to compliment your spouse for the good things.

Don’t pay attention to gossip: It might be you are listening to a lot of things about your spouse or his/her family. But to stay happy in a relationship, it is important to have trust on your life partner. Ignore the gossips, you and your spouse are a team and you should not participate in such conversations.

Accept responsibility: Avoiding or escaping from your responsibilities can lead to arguments and frustration in a marriage. Therefore, it is important that you bear your responsibility well. Always remember that you two are a team and you have to work together as a team to make things work. Being married doesn’t mean that only you or spouse is responsible to bear all the responsibilities. Accept each-other and always be a helping hand for your spouse.

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Why You Should Marry A Younger Man?

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In India, we have a common mind set to find a groom elder then bride, be it a few months or a few years. But, most of us believe in marrying to an elder groom not to someone who is younger to the bride. Different people have different mindsets and different logics to boost this idea. But, it doesn’t mean that girls don’t marry younger males or they don’t find a younger male suitable for them. Age has not much to do with your understanding and compatibility in your marriage, except the biological clock of your body. There are many females who are happily married with younger males and support the idea of marrying someone who is younger to you. Let’s talk some of the reasons why you should marry a younger male.

Enjoy more maturity:  You should never underestimate anyone on the maturity level. There are chances that you will find the one who might have better maturity level. In that case, you will enjoy the better relationship without any drama.

You can have more fun: If your spouse is younger than you in that case you can have more fun. He will be most of the time excited to explore and try new things. This way you will have more fun. You will find unmatched energy level in your partner.

You will feel younger: In his company you will always feel younger. He can infuse new level of energy in your lifestyle and can add more fun in your life. You will always feel that he is bringing some fresh feel in your life and always want to try a lot of things which you might have never done with a partner of similar age elder than you.

You find him simple: You will not find him dominating or leading you like anything. You will find him simple and easy to go with. You will never feel that he is trying to rule you or want you to do things his ways only. You will not feel that he is doing any emotional drama or something similar with you to convince you over things.  So, you will enjoy a simple and sweet relationship.

You will get moral support: As he is younger to you, he therefore believes in you and your thought process. He will always be on your side and you will get a moral support from him. He will always be on your side and support you. Moral support matters a lot when it comes to a relationship and marriage.

You will enjoy good friendship: You will surely enjoy the better level of friendship with him. You will surely find a good friend in him. You don’t mind to share your opinion and thoughts with him. As he will be less judgmental and will be a good listener. He will not evaluate you on the basis of your thoughts, rather will be a good friend for lifetime.

Help in daily chores: If you are marrying a younger man, he will be happy in helping you in daily chores. He will be happy in helping you day-to-day activities. He will not mind washing dishing or clothes or buying grocery. You can any time tell him to get things done and trust him on that part that he will always be there to help you out.

New perspective about things: If might be with your age you have developed a certain type of mind set and thoughts about different things and processes. But, it might be he will be thinking differently and have a new perspective about things. It will also give you a fresh idea and will make changes in your thought process as well.

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