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Ladies, Do You Have These Expectations from Your Fiancé?

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Courtship period in any relationship is one of the most beautiful times. You enjoy being in that relationship and you enjoy every bit of it. You want to spend a lot of time together. Either you are on phone or messaging something or other with him during the whole day to stay connected. Over a period of time, you feel connected and close to him. Eventually, you develop some expectations and expect him to fulfill those expectations. It is very much common in a relationship to expect things from your partner. Here are some common expectations ladies have from their fiancé during courtship period.

Instant Reply: This is something really common and most of us expect this from our partner. Whenever you sent him a text message or while chatting with him online you want him to reply back to you instantly. But, you should always remember that he has some job liabilities, so it is not possible that he will reply to you instantly all the time. So, in case he sends you a delayed reply, then don’t get annoyed with him, rather try to understand his situation.

Patient Listening: You always want him to listen to your thoughts calmly, even if you are talking something that doesn’t interests him. You expect him to understand your point and not to lose his temper because you are talking something which he doesn’t like. So, if you expect him to be patient with you, then he also expects the same from you. He is also new in this relationship, he too needs time to understand your thoughts and get used to it. If he is talking something which you don’t like or disagree, then put your point constructively, rather than losing your temper.

Well-behaved and courteous Behavior: You always want him to be courteous and well-behaved with you and with others as well. You never want your man to shout on you over anything. You want him to be polite and supportive. You always want him to behave well with you and never lose his temper and humiliate or insult you.

Deep level of understanding: For building a strong relationship, it is important that you build a strong understanding with him. Good level of understanding is important for a healthy relationship. You always want him to be understanding; similarly he wants the same from you. He also expects you to be supportive and understanding.

Respect for your parents: You always want that your partner should respect your parents. You expect your future husband to respect and love your parents the way you do. Similarly, he also expects you to respect his parents. Therefore, to establish a good relationship it is important that you respect each-other’s parents.

Punctuality: Are you planning to go out for dinner or for a movie? You want him to reach on time and don’t let you wait for a long time. You want him to value and respect your time and always reach on time if you make a plan. This is your responsibility as well to value his time and reach on time whenever he makes any plan. Always value the time because it shows how important the other person is in your life.

Loyalty and commitment: You always want him to be committed and loyal in this relationship. You never expect him to flirt with other ladies. You never want him to check out other girls when you two are together. You always want him to remain loyal and never cheat you under any circumstances.

Mutual Respect: For a strong relationship it is important to give respect to your relationship and your partner. You should always respect your partner not because he/she is your husband or wife, but as a person he has something valuable and important. Respect him/her for the qualities he/she has to enjoy a blissful relationship.  If you expect him to respect you, always remember that he too expects the same from you.

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5 Things To Notice In Your Man Before Taking The Wedding Vows

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Marriage is something you think about day and night and feel butterflies in your stomach if you are about to get married soon. This is a transitional phase in one’s life, you feel excited and nervous at the same time. At times, you doubt your own decision of marrying your ‘Mr. Charming’. But, this is very common thought and everyone has more or less similar kind of feelings when it comes to marriage. Therefore, it becomes more important to choose the right kind of man and say yes to someone who is just perfect for you and most compatible. Always ensure that you find someone who is willing to give his 100% to this relationship and equally devoted. Here are five things that you should look for in your man before taking the wedding vows.

Keen to know more about your interests: He is the one, who is always keen to know more about your interest. He likes to get involved in different activities with you. He always tries hard to adapt to your habits and trying his level best to make a pace with you. Whenever you meet him, he always shows his interest in knowing more about your liking, interest, friends, hobbies and other things related to you. He likes to listen to your thoughts and always respects your opinion.

Willing to make changes: He is not rigid with his thoughts and expectations, and is always willing to make changes if required. He is not a kind of guy who always cribs that because of you he has not been able to go out to watch a match with his guy’s gang or something similar.  Besides, he makes you feel important and always shows that meeting you is important than anything else. He always shows his interest in making changes in his routine if situation comes, he never says no to try something new or experimenting with something because he doesn’t want to miss even a single opportunity to spend time with you.

Always shows his commitment: He always shows his commitment in his actions and words. He always introduces you to his friends proudly and never hesitates in accepting this relationship publicly. This clearly reflects in his gestures and expressions that he is happy with this relationship. He never wants to hide you and this relationship from anyone. He always accompanies you at social gatherings and family functions. Whenever he is out with you, he is more focused on you and his eyes never move here and there.

Concerned about you: He is always concerned about you, your safety, health and other things. He never misses a single opportunity to show his genuine concern. Whenever you are late from office he offers to drop you or make calls to ensure that you reach home safely. He always keeps you first and thinks about your requirements first compared to his requirements. He doesn’t mind to make adjustments in his routines to make you feel comfortable. Making changes and alterations never annoys him, he is always open for such changes.

Emotionally connected with you: He is emotionally connected with you and shares a good level of emotional bonding. He never hesitates to express his thoughts openly and shows his concern. He always tries to understand your point and find solutions to your problems. He never feels irritated listening to your thoughts. You can trust him anytime.

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6 Gifts You Should Never Give to Your Mother in Law

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The relationship of a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law is different from rest of the relationships. Your mother-in-law could be your best friend and she could be your critic as well. She is the one who helps you to get familiar and adjust within the new family and makes you comfortable. She is the binding agent of the family and you are really dependent on her over a lot of day-to-day things. She is not only your mother-in-law, but the one who is always there for you in the family, when situation comes. There is no better way of acknowledging her efforts and giving her respect than giving her a gift which she really deserves. Are you confused what you should gift her and what you should not gift her? Giving a wrong gift to your mother-in-law might give her an impression that she is not valued and you don’t consider her important.  We are here sharing some gifts that you should never give to your mother-in-law.

Exercise equipment: No matter how many efforts your Mother-in-Law (MIL) is putting to reduce the extra kilos, but giving her an exercise kit is no doubt a wrong choice. Giving her yoga mat, fitness clothes, digital health tracker might offend and give her sense that she really needs to make more efforts to stay fit or she is not fit. No doubt, you are giving her as to appreciate her efforts and you liked the way she is putting efforts to stay fit.  But gifting her exercise equipment on some special occasion is not the right choice.

Gym membership: You might be a fitness freak and love to go to gym every day like a ritual, but not necessary that everyone loves to spend time in gym. Quite possible your mother-in-law is conscious about her health and fitness and she is spending an amount of time on morning and evening walk or on yoga. But, it is not an indication that she is equally interested in spending her time in gym and exercising. Don’t give her such kind of memberships which require a lot of motivation to continue. It might be she doesn’t find going to gym as interesting as she finds running or walking in a nearby garden. So, giving her gym membership is not really a good option.

Cookery book: Your intentions might just be to share your cooking tips and expert advice with her and you really want her to know how to cook some mouthwatering continental or south-Indian dishes, but giving her a cookery book might offend her. She might feel that she is not a good cook or you don’t like the way she cooks. It might be she is a good learner and she is always keen to learn new dishes, but don’t give her something unless or until she has expressed the desire to buy something similar.

Wrong size clothes: Recently you have seen a latest trendy outfit and you want to gift that gorgeous dress to your mother-in-law then hold on for a second and before buying that dress for her try to find out her size. Giving her a dress which might not fit her well is not the right idea. First, try to find out her size and buy something for her accordingly. It you buy a dress one size bigger or smaller, then you need to get it replaced, so it always better to buy something which will fit her well.

Old fashioned jewelry: Giving Jewelry as a gift to your MIL is great idea as all women love jewelry. It might be she is fond of a specific pattern or designs. She likes to buy her jewelry from her favorite shop. No matter how classy these antique jewelries will look with her favorite saree or suit, but if she is not fond of it, then it is not worth giving it. It is always better if you gift her something of her interest. Don’t give her jewelry, which she is not going to wear in the future. Before investing a good amount in jewelry, try to know her liking about jewelry.

Cleaning supplies: Are you fond of a specific cleaner because of its tough formula and cleaning abilities, still never get tempted to gift this to your Mother-in-Law. Though you might think that she should also use it because of its good results and quality, still gifting her cleaning supplies is not really a brilliant idea. Cleaning supplies are just simple utilities and people have their own choices and reasons behind using them, so giving her cleaning supplies might offend her and give her an impression that she is not good at it or using wrong material.

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Are People Nagging You to Get Married? Deal the Pressure Smartly

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If you are in a marriageable age and still single then for sure you must be feeling the pressure to get married and settle down. The pressure to get married is not limited to Hindu, Sikh or Jain or to some other community, but it real and visible across all the classes and caste. Irrespective of the facts like educational background, working status, gender or financial status, the pressure to get married is affecting the life of every youngster. It is not that the women in marriageable age are facing such pressure, but men are not even unaffected with it. However, we can’t change the mindset of people, but we can even try to make them understand the point of waiting for the right person not the right time. But, this is again a very tricky affair and there are chances that you will face reverse effects of the same. The best you can do is to devise some strategies to deal with this pressure without even making big fuss about it. Here, we are sharing some points to deal with the pressure to get married and enjoy your bachelorhood.

Be sure what you want: Before reaching to any point or conclusion, it is better to be sure what you want in your life. Are you happy with your present life? What are the reasons behind not getting married? Do you want to get married soon or not? What are your life partner preferences? What do you think about married life? If you know the answer of these questions and you know what exactly you want in life, then it is worth waiting for the right person. So, before accepting or rejecting some marriage proposal, it is better that you are 100% sure what you are doing and what you want in your life.

Be logical: When you say no to any proposal or ask your parents to give you some more time as you don’t want to get married, then be logical with your replies and approach. If you will give them lame excuses and tell them that you don’t want to get married because you are not ready for it, or your friends are still single. This is not very convincing point for your parents. So, if you do not want to get married right now, give them convincing logic.

Explain with patience: If you don’t want to get married now, explain it to your parents. If they are pressurizing you to get married soon and giving their own logics for getting married and you are in no mood to settle down now, have patience and explain them your point. Be clear about your thoughts and don’t get hyper or irritated while explaining your point to your parents or your friends because your anger might annoy them.

Be honest: It is important that you to remain honest in your thoughts and approach. Don’t beat around the bushes and talk about something irrelevant. If you are in a marriage relationship with someone and he/she is asking for some time to take the next step, told this to your parents why you need more time and be honest with them. If you want to focus more on your career right now and want to settle down financially before getting married, be clear about and make them understand your point. So, it is important to be honest in your approach.

Love marriage/arranged marriage: Are you sure you want to do love marriage or arranged marriage? Be sure what you want in life. If you are sure about that there is no one in your life and you want to do arranged marriage only, make it clear to your parents as well that you will go for arranged marriage only. There is no one in your life and you will tie the knot with their wishes. It will not create any confusion in their mind that you are postponing marriage because of other reasons.

Don’t feel friend’s pressure: This is another pressure which most of the youngster feel. At times, you feel so stressed because all your friends give you many reasons why you should tie the knot. They want you to enter into the married club because they all are married and you are single. If you are comfortable with your single friends, enjoy their company. Don’t stress yourself unnecessary.

Advantages of being single: If you want to wait take some more time to settle down, don’t worry about others and enjoy your bachelorhood. It is great to be single. No matter, you are 25years or 35 years and still single, there is no harm in it. There are a lot of things which you can experience and enjoy being single. Every phase of life has its own advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, finding the right partner is more important than getting married with wrong one. Enjoy your life to the fullest and have fun with friends and family.

Be open with ideas: This is another thing on which you should work upon. Be open with different ideas. If you are in a relationship and your boyfriend or girlfriend wants some time before meeting your parents or getting married, be open with it. Don’t force your partner to marry soon. If your fiancée/fiancé wants to postpone the marriage for a few months or a year then be open with that idea.

Communicate well: Communication is the key for any strong relationship. It is better to communicate well your thoughts and ideas with people. If you will not reply to their questions or don’t make your point clear why you don’t want to settle down now, it will further create confusion and irritate them. Therefore, communicate well about your thoughts and feeling, rather than avoiding conversation.

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Worried About Your Relationship with Sasu Maa? Follow These Simple Tips to Become Her Darling

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In our country, we believe that when you marry someone you just don’t marry the person only, but you marry with the family and even extended family as well. Generally, boys are close to their mothers and after marriage they have two special ladies in their life. The one he cares a lot and another one he loves most. But, the situation becomes complicated when the two start believing that he is ignoring them because of the other one. In most of the cases, the mother-in-law believes that her son is ignoring her because of his wife. This is when the whole problem starts. If you are about to enter into this special relationship or you are already facing the heat of arguments and issues with your mother-in-law, follow these simple tips to become her darling.

Try to know more about you: This is your first and most important step towards building the strong and happy relationship with your MIL (Mother-in-law). Make sure that you ask more about her liking, disliking, behavior, temperament and other important things from your fiancé or husband. It will help in understanding her behavior and attitude. Even you know in advance that what you should discuss with her or what not to discuss with her.

Plan shopping with her: This is one activity which is generally liked by all females. It will give you enough opportunity to get close to her and mingle with her. We know that we all love to go out for shopping with our bestie’s, but going out with her on shopping will help in building a strong relationship with her. Buy something for her of her choice and show that you care for her.

Take her advice: Whenever you stuck somewhere don’t hesitate to take her advice. She is a mother and moreover more experienced than you, if you think you need someone’s advice then you can ask her. She will not only like your move, but she will give your right suggestion as well. If you want to know more about your husband or fiancé then she is the right one to be contacted.

Discuss things with her: Don’t discuss or share things with her just for the sake of doing it. Rather, discuss and share things with her genuinely. She will surely love to get involved with you in different things. Always remember to discuss light or non-controversial topics with her. If you think that some topic will make her angry or she will not like it, then avoid discussing such topics with her.

Don’t do fake appreciation: We all know when you are appreciating genuinely or when you are faking it. If you think that she has genuinely done something great, don’t forget to appreciate her or thank her for that. But, if you are doing it for the sake of it or just pleasing her, then be aware she knows it very well that you are faking it. Don’t fake things by praising her all the time.

Share your feeling with her: If you are annoyed with something or something is bothering you, then don’t forget to share this with her. If you are not happy with her behavior or something else at home, share this openly. It will build the trust factor in your relationship. But, don’t forget to share your feeling in polite and constructive way. Argumenting or shouting will not solve the problem, rather complicate it further more. It is always better to share your things in a constructive way with your MIL.

Cook something special for her: This is something which most of the mother-in-law expect from their daughter-in-law. If you know what she likes or what she doesn’t, cook something special for her. All MIL expect their daughter-in-law to possess good cooking skills. Try to cook everything by your own, most of the MIL appreciate that their daughter-in-law handles the kitchen by her own.

Don’t brag about self: You are there in her family because she liked you and her son liked you. Don’t brag about yourself too much in front of her. Don’t tell her again and again that how much he loves you or what special he does for you because you are good or something similar. It might be she will not feel good about it, when you brag too much. So remain happy on your achievements and stay cool.

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