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Do You Bother About Inter-Caste Marriage?

Inter Caste Marriage

Marriage in India is considered as one of the biggest event of once life. If there is someone in marriageable age in the family you always want him/her to get marry in the same caste or community. Why we all the time condemn inter-caster marriage so much? Why we want to marry someone from our own community? We all must have heard this from our parents that we don’t want you to go for inter-caste marriage. We are ok with your love marriage, but not with inter-caste love marriage. This is something really strange that in present tech-savvy world too we consider inter-caste marriage as stigma. Do you think that our generation next too thinks about it in the same manner? Do you think that they also mind about marrying someone from a different caste or community? Here, we are sharing some of the reasons why we still prefer inter-caste marriage and a survey finding what our new generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

The younger generation believes that there is no harm in marrying someone from a different caste. They don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if they find him/her compatible. But one the reverse side parents want that their kids should marry within their caste, be it arranged or love marriage.

Rashmi Soni, 28 years, Senior Creative Designer, MNC, Gurgaon said that she does not mind marrying someone from a different caste or community if she will find him understanding and compatible. She also mentioned that her first preference is to find a life partner who is understanding and professionally stable, rather than marrying someone from the same caste who is not at all compatible.

In another conversation with Investment Banker, Anurag Singh, 30 years, shared with us that he too doesn’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if that girl is mature and intelligent. He wants to marry someone who is understanding and prove to be a better-match. For him caste has nothing to do in married life except celebrating festivals differently. But, this is a very small thing in front of other issues which you face if you marry a wrong person.

Lakhshita Tonk, 27 years, working as Financial Analyst with a financial firm in Hyderabad, said that she likes someone in her office and planning to get married soon. He is from a different caste and she mentioned that if there is no problem in working someone from a different community. You can be good friends if you are from different caste why you can’t marry someone from a different caste. She mentioned that understanding and compatibility has nothing to do with caste. This is just a norm which we all follow to get the societal acceptance to our relationship.

Dinesh Garg, 26 years, Senior Risk Management Analyst, CA firm Pune, said that he is working in Pune with a CA firm and earning good. He mentioned that he will not bother much about the caste of his life partner if he finds someone compatible and a perfect match. He wants someone who will be understanding and supportive. He wants someone who understands his professional liabilities and mature enough to handle situation at her own. So, caste is not the main criteria for marriage, but a better match with higher understanding is preferred.

We, also discussed the same topic with parents and here we find that they have a different opinion altogether. However, there are many reasons behind their logic and not supporting inter-caste marriage. Let’s take a look what our senior generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

Rajat Jha, 54 years, PWD officer, is looking for a match for his daughter. He is looking for a groom from his own caste. He is not in favor of marrying his daughter in different caste. He said that marrying our daughter to different caste will create pressure for her. It will be difficult for her to adjust with new rituals and new things in life. We love to do thing the way we see them from out childhood. It is difficult to follow new rituals and get adjusted. Therefore, he doesn’t want to search someone from a different caste.

Kuldeep Nair, 58 years, Banker is also not convinced with the idea of finding a match for his son/daughter in different caste. He said that it might be it will take some time to find a good match or a perfect match within the community, but it is not difficult. He further mentioned that we are Pandit, we follow certain rituals and traditions which are different from other communities. I don’t want that my daughter or daughter-in-law will follow some different rituals. It will create problem and make life more complicated for the member to get adjusted with new styles and traditions. He further added, if you get married in a different caste you feel like that you are from a different planet and have nothing to say, rather just to follow everything blindly.

Santoshi Mathur, 60 years, Teacher is also not really happy with this changing trend. She said that nowadays, kids are going for love marriage and they prefer to marry someone who is equally qualified, smart, intelligent and compatible. So, they don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste. But, as a parent we know that our society does not easily accept an inter-caste arranged marriage. It will further affect our future search for our other kids. Therefore, she also believes that inter-caste marriage is not a good idea as it reduces of getting a good match within the caste for other kids in the family.

Why you should do inter-caste marriage? Why you should not do inter-caste marriage?
Caste is not the problem in any marriage Social acceptance is lower
You will learn new customs and rituals Lower chances of finding a better match for other kids within community
You feel that now you are part of two different societies Adjustment issues in accepting and learning new customs and  rituals
You feel more connected Cultural differences
You start respecting other customs and make you more mature People still consider it as stigma

 

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Do You Think First Year Of Marriage Is Very Important? Some Points to Boost This Idea

happy married couple

Marriage is one of the most beautiful, exciting, romantic and life turning phase. It is a new beginning for both bride and groom. You start a new phase of your life, sharing your home, your space, important and precious things which you even didn’t share with your sibling as well. It gives you a sense of responsibility also. When you tie the knot with someone, be it yours love marriage or arranged marriage, the first year of the marriage is very crucial and important for every couple. Together you learn a lot of things, make plans, implement them and chase your collective dream to live a happy married life. Here, we are sharing some points which will boost the idea that the first year of marriage is very important.

Knowing each-other better: It may be that you know each-other from a long time, spent a lot of time together, watched many movies, explored new places, had lavish food in restaurants, but, staying together is a different feeling. There are many things which you get to know only once you start staying together. You start knowing more about his/her personality at home, eating habits, liking’s, disliking’s, way you sleep and many other things which you never considered and taken so seriously before. You learn a lot new things about your partner and start knowing each-other well.

Share everything and anything: After marriage you do not just share your home, but you share many things with your partner like your room, bed, cabinets, your car, your favorite cookies, chocolates and much more. It gives you a sense of attachment and belongingness. All these things look really small, but they have their own importance in life.

You act and think like a unit: If you are a married couple and if you does not act and think like a unit then there is something wrong in your relationship. Being a couple you fight with each-other which is quite normal between couples. But, it is very important that you work, think and behaves like a unit when you face any difficult situation or challenge in life. You never leave your partner alone in the time of difficulty. Moreover, you two act as a team and try to find out solutions for all difficulties of life.

Knowing about what makes your partner happy & sad: The first year of happy married life is something like you try to spend maximum time together. It is kind of extended honeymoon. You learn to know more about each-other’s liking-disliking. You also learn what will make him/her happy and what will annoy him/her. You also develop a sense over which things you can argue and where you need to stop and quit.

Unfold the weaker side as well: When your partner before your marriage, you tend to know only the strong and good side of your partner. But, once you stay together you get to see the strong and weak side as well. Once you get married you don’t worry a lot about your weaker sides and you are fully convinced that your partner will not take your weaker points otherwise, rather he/she will support you and accept you the way you are.

You learn to filter your words: This is one thing which you gradually learn in this relationship. You start filtering your words and pay attention to what you speak. In any heated argument you tend to say such words which you actually don’t mean, in that case you invite unwanted tension and tussle.  To avoid such unwanted situations and arguments you start filtering your sentences and start picking the right words to express yourself in a subtle manner.

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Tips to Convince Your Parents for Love Marriage

Love Marriages

Are you the one of those millions of young hearts who has decided to marry with the one whom they want to, but your parents are against your love marriage? Does your mind always filled with questions like why your parents are not supporting you? Why Indian parents are against love marriage? Is there any way, which can help you in convincing your parents? We have some special expert tips to convince your parents and make them understand your point of view.

Discuss freely with your parents: It is really important that you discuss freely with your parents. You should tell them what’s there in your mind. Why you are so much in favor of your decision? Why you think that he/she is just perfect for you. You should put all your thoughts openly in front of parents.

Involve relatives & close friends: If there is someone in your family who understands you and your parents well, you can involve them. If any of your relative or family-friend can help you in convincing your parents, then it’s a good idea to involve them into discussion. You can also seek their help making your point clear in front of your parents if you are not able to discuss it with them.

 Negotiate you’re a child: You should always remember that you are always dear to your parents, irrespective of the fact how annoyed they are with you. You should always negotiate with them like a child and try to get their yes!

Stick to your decision: This is really important that you stick to your decision always. If they are against your love marriage, so they will not leave any stone unturned to hear what they want from you. During that crucial time, it is really important that you will stick to your decision and don’t change your mind with their emotional statements and other tricks.

Rebuild trust with your parents: In India, choosing your life partner and convincing your parents for your decision is not easy. Most of the people still believe that love marriages are not long lasting. So, in your parent’s eyes you have broken their trust and shattered their dreams of choosing your life partner, which they feel must have been most suitable for you. Therefore, don’t add any new element into your love story and try to rebuild your trust.

Highlight qualities of your partner: It is important to convince them with your decision. You can do this only by highlighting the potential of life partner. You must have chosen the most suitable and accomplished partner, but till the time you don’t tell them about the qualities how could they rate him/her. It is really important to tell the achievements and accomplishments of your partner to your parents.

 

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Marriage is Sacrifice to Personal Love Story

Love marriage in India

Marriage is happy life for both the man and woman to start as the husband and wife. We can think the celebration time of the family which created new story after the wedding. The responsibility of the husband and his wife become more important to improve their relation in the social circle. In the professional way they should have to greater facility to extent the facility of the lifestyle. Proper decision marking for with coordination can enhance the greater stability to their relationship. Everyone in the family is also looking for great social value to enable the criteria for married life.

After the happy ceremony for new family, the combination of the work with life should be more comfortable to each other. This will definitely help to work out for the quality living for standard trends in the society. Every source of the income money will to be filled with better facility to enhance the modern social structure. Finance stability of the family will improve the lifestyle for members and partner as well. Good social behavior will also play an effective role to gain stability for sustainable growth. Decision making is the main factor for coordination among the family members.

The responsibility of the husband on the domestic house matters with his wife and parents. Personality on the professional job is very crucial for the taking more update in the career growth. You know this kind of job will reflect the personality of individual man or woman in the work station. With same time you can find the same type of role for the woman as the house wife or working lady with professional job. Make sure the professional career should not be any obstacle to friendly family life at home as husband and wife.

Married couple should sacrifice the personal matters in case of family situation to improve the good decision. You can be better half to your life partner if you support the value of spouse. Better coordination with your partner to create more trust with your lovely spouse. Husband and wife are equally responsible for the successful marriage life to live with family. If you are looking for better candidate for life partner you can login to the Indian matrimony sites. Also update your full profile to get searched by the potential bride or groom candidates available in the online site.

Love Affection is Trending to Arrange Marriage

Love with Arrange Marriage

Love is the sacred word of God to the human kind in the world. It creates bong between to person with hope in the relation. The type of the relation depends on the quality of the stability among those in the bond making. So most beautiful relation is the love between the man and woman with affection. The love gradually trends to the strong bond which ends with marriage of the two soul mates. After the wedding ceremony they are called husband and wife in the family for the life time among the relatives.

Better human beings are selective upon the adding love to quality of the lifestyle in the marriage life. Every boy and girl has the dream to get dream soul mate in their life which they can enjoy with full of joy. This starts from the searching of the soul mate like suitable bride or groom as per the choice of them. The choice for the partner depends upon the family status, financial stability, and social life of both the family members. As per the criteria of the likes depends on the grooms character and brides matching to the similar things.

Sometimes there is situation where the boy attracted to the particular girl whom he likes more. Then the girl fall in love with the same boy with impression of the quality standard. This creates the possibility of love life which will reflect the future bond of the life family to lovely birds. They further process the story to their respective family members with mutual approach. Also they can be approved or not by their families depends on the situation of matching requirements. It is specially selection of the love which leads to the marriage of the two hearts with love bond.

Affection of love between the boy and girl will leads the situation favorable to start the family life. Bride’s family looks for the good earning, education, social status of the groom’s family to which the bride will come to live. On the other hand the groom is searching for beautiful, education, behavior with honest girl suitable for his wife. The marriage arranged with mutual consent of the both boy and girls family reference of their personal views. This kind of love trends to the beautiful wedding ceremony of the new husband and wife to be celebration of happy life style.

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