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Ask Some Important Questions Before Getting Serious in Relationship

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When you are thinking too serious about someone special in your life, you start making a lot of plans about your future. But, it is important to think before things became really hot between you two. You must have shared many thoughts and dream with him/her, but it is equally important to know his/her views and thoughts on the same before you take the next step in life. It is important to know and check that you are on the same page and you are thinking alike. Is he/she also feeling the same what you are feeling for him/her? Therefore, it becomes more important to ask a few important questions to understand what he/she feels about you and your special relationship.

What are his/her future plans?: You should always ask this question to that someone special before you create your own fairy tale with him/her. Ask what he/she thinks about you? What are his/her future plans with you? It is important to know what he/she feels about you and keeping your future in mind as future couple. If he/she thinks that you two should remain as good friends as you are today, then you should hold your emotions back and move on.

Is he/she is ready for commitment: This is another big question in front of those who are in a relationship. You love to be with each-other. You love to spend more time together, but you don’t want to make any commitment or promises in relationship. You are happy with your open relationship where you have fewer expectations and liabilities towards each-other.

What is cheating for you?: This is another important question to ask him/her before you became serious in the relationship. What he/she thinks about cheating and what will be their reaction and something similar he/she will face in the future? For some people online intimacy or chatting with someone is acceptable, but some people will count it as cheating. Therefore, it becomes more important to know how he/she will react if something similar happens in the future.

Do you mind to accept this relationship publicly?  Ask him/her that whether he/she would mind to discuss about your relationship with anyone. There are many people who don’t like to discuss about their relationship with anyone else. There are many people who don’t want to make their relationship public and always want to keep it secret.

Is he/she ready to face any worse situation for you?: Making commitment is one thing and taking a strong stand for your commitment is another thing. Is he/she ready to stand for your relationship if things go south in the future? Is he/she ready to face anything for survival of your relationship? If he/she also feels equally strong about this relationship or he/she is ready to stand by you in all the circumstances, then you need not to worry about this relationship and its future.

Is there is something which you should know?: This is another important thing which you should consider before taking a next step in your relationship. Ask is there something which you should know before getting serious about this relationship. Is there something which you should know before taking this relationship to next level, be it about his/her past, family, any other past relationship or something which might affect your future?

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Do You Bother About Inter-Caste Marriage?

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Marriage in India is considered as one of the biggest event of once life. If there is someone in marriageable age in the family you always want him/her to get marry in the same caste or community. Why we all the time condemn inter-caster marriage so much? Why we want to marry someone from our own community? We all must have heard this from our parents that we don’t want you to go for inter-caste marriage. We are ok with your love marriage, but not with inter-caste love marriage. This is something really strange that in present tech-savvy world too we consider inter-caste marriage as stigma. Do you think that our generation next too thinks about it in the same manner? Do you think that they also mind about marrying someone from a different caste or community? Here, we are sharing some of the reasons why we still prefer inter-caste marriage and a survey finding what our new generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

The younger generation believes that there is no harm in marrying someone from a different caste. They don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if they find him/her compatible. But one the reverse side parents want that their kids should marry within their caste, be it arranged or love marriage.

Rashmi Soni, 28 years, Senior Creative Designer, MNC, Gurgaon said that she does not mind marrying someone from a different caste or community if she will find him understanding and compatible. She also mentioned that her first preference is to find a life partner who is understanding and professionally stable, rather than marrying someone from the same caste who is not at all compatible.

In another conversation with Investment Banker, Anurag Singh, 30 years, shared with us that he too doesn’t mind marrying someone from a different caste if that girl is mature and intelligent. He wants to marry someone who is understanding and prove to be a better-match. For him caste has nothing to do in married life except celebrating festivals differently. But, this is a very small thing in front of other issues which you face if you marry a wrong person.

Lakhshita Tonk, 27 years, working as Financial Analyst with a financial firm in Hyderabad, said that she likes someone in her office and planning to get married soon. He is from a different caste and she mentioned that if there is no problem in working someone from a different community. You can be good friends if you are from different caste why you can’t marry someone from a different caste. She mentioned that understanding and compatibility has nothing to do with caste. This is just a norm which we all follow to get the societal acceptance to our relationship.

Dinesh Garg, 26 years, Senior Risk Management Analyst, CA firm Pune, said that he is working in Pune with a CA firm and earning good. He mentioned that he will not bother much about the caste of his life partner if he finds someone compatible and a perfect match. He wants someone who will be understanding and supportive. He wants someone who understands his professional liabilities and mature enough to handle situation at her own. So, caste is not the main criteria for marriage, but a better match with higher understanding is preferred.

We, also discussed the same topic with parents and here we find that they have a different opinion altogether. However, there are many reasons behind their logic and not supporting inter-caste marriage. Let’s take a look what our senior generation thinks about inter-caste marriage.

Rajat Jha, 54 years, PWD officer, is looking for a match for his daughter. He is looking for a groom from his own caste. He is not in favor of marrying his daughter in different caste. He said that marrying our daughter to different caste will create pressure for her. It will be difficult for her to adjust with new rituals and new things in life. We love to do thing the way we see them from out childhood. It is difficult to follow new rituals and get adjusted. Therefore, he doesn’t want to search someone from a different caste.

Kuldeep Nair, 58 years, Banker is also not convinced with the idea of finding a match for his son/daughter in different caste. He said that it might be it will take some time to find a good match or a perfect match within the community, but it is not difficult. He further mentioned that we are Pandit, we follow certain rituals and traditions which are different from other communities. I don’t want that my daughter or daughter-in-law will follow some different rituals. It will create problem and make life more complicated for the member to get adjusted with new styles and traditions. He further added, if you get married in a different caste you feel like that you are from a different planet and have nothing to say, rather just to follow everything blindly.

Santoshi Mathur, 60 years, Teacher is also not really happy with this changing trend. She said that nowadays, kids are going for love marriage and they prefer to marry someone who is equally qualified, smart, intelligent and compatible. So, they don’t mind marrying someone from a different caste. But, as a parent we know that our society does not easily accept an inter-caste arranged marriage. It will further affect our future search for our other kids. Therefore, she also believes that inter-caste marriage is not a good idea as it reduces of getting a good match within the caste for other kids in the family.

Why you should do inter-caste marriage? Why you should not do inter-caste marriage?
Caste is not the problem in any marriage Social acceptance is lower
You will learn new customs and rituals Lower chances of finding a better match for other kids within community
You feel that now you are part of two different societies Adjustment issues in accepting and learning new customs and  rituals
You feel more connected Cultural differences
You start respecting other customs and make you more mature People still consider it as stigma

 

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Be Selective, Don’t Accept All Interest on Your Matrimonial Profile

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Once you attain a certain age in our country or we call it marriageable age, then your whole family and whole world around you is bothered about your marriage. All your relatives, friends and family members keep on asking about when you will marry. One of my friends Rakshita, told me that she has recently created a profile on matrimonial site. She was very happy after creating the profile because now she is not required to meet everyone. She is also feeling happy because she is receiving a lot of interest on her matrimonial profile. But, she shared her experience and told me that she is very selective in her approach and doesn’t accept all invitations. She mentioned that she is taking all steps to stay safe on matrimonial site. She also shared how she is managing her profile to get the maximum out of her registered profile. I am here sharing some of the tips shared by her to manage the matrimonial profile and managing the interest received on the profile.

Check the profile: Always check the profile before you accept any interest or invitation from other registered member. Don’t accept any invitation just for the sake of it. It is not a dating or social networking site where every interest/invitation is important and you must accept all to increase the number. No, this is not the case of matrimonial profile. Before accepting any profiles always check it.

Read all details carefully: When you receive any interest from any of the registered member, before accepting or deleting the request read all the details carefully. Read the profile thoroughly, don’t just overlook the profile or see through the photographs only. Read every mentioned detail carefully.

Family status/background: This is something very important which you should never overlook when you receive any interest. Always check the family details. Try to find out more details about his/her parents, sibling, location and other important details. It will give you a glimpse of his financial and social status which is an important thing to consider before marriage life.

Check education as priority: Most of the people don’t mention all important details while registering with matrimonial sites. Education is one such thing which you should not ignore or overlook before accepting the interest in your profile. Nowadays, all of us look for a partner who is highly educated and settled. If you too have certain criteria about education, then check this as your priority.

Find out about common interest: This will help in checking the compatibility quotient of you two. While going through his/her profile try to find out the common interest or hobbies. It will help in understanding his/her lifestyle, interest, personality and social life. Compatibility is very important for this relationship and a lot of things based upon it after marriage. However, there is no surety that the common interest will result in yes for the marriage, but it is important to create a common platform to begin with.

Think about your priorities: Before accepting any profile interest, think about your priorities and interest. It is important that you make a check list of your priorities. What are you looking for in your life partner? What are your priorities of life? Do you want a professional or you are looking for someone really beautiful/handsome or something else. Make a checklist of your priorities and select or reject a profile based on that. It will make your partner search simple and easy. You will not waste time in meeting the wrong people.

Find out the seriousness: While going through the profile always check the seriousness of the profile. Read all the mentioned details, description about self, parents and other things. It will give a sense about seriousness of that person. It will also make you understand the genuineness of the profile.

See all photographs: Before selecting or rejecting any matrimonial interest, always check the photographs. Try to find out whether the photographs are original or crafted. It will also help in understanding the personality and lifestyle of the person. Also check is he/she looking of same age in the photographs that is mentioned in the profile details.

Know more about partner preference: Once you receive any partner interest on your profile read more about the partner preferences. It is important that you should be accepting the one who is meeting your partner preference or you are fitting into his/her partner preference. It will increase the chances of positive response. If you are not meeting his/her partner preference or he/she has sent you interest after viewing your photograph or educational details or something else. Find out such points and make your decision accordingly.

Consider the age: This is another important decision making factor. Always check the age of the profile before accepting the interest on your matrimonial profile. If he/she is too young or in the age of 22-23, there are chances that he/she has registered for the sake of registering not for marriage. Another thing to consider is how older or younger he/she to you. If the age gap is higher, there are chances of further complications. So, think about the prospects before accepting any matrimonial profile.

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Appreciate Your Husband to Strengthen Your Relationship

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The relationship of husband and wife is built over trust and love. It is one of the most important and integral part of married life. Apart from love and appreciation, you also require a lot of things to get going and enjoy a happy relationship. Appreciating your husband doesn’t mean that you are buttering him or you have some hidden desires because of that you are praising. But, true appreciation with pure feelings is very important to show your love and to strengthen your relationship with husband. We all love words of appreciation and similar thing exist in our marriage as well. Your husband also expects word of appreciation from you to feel great. Here, we are sharing some tips to appreciate your husband and strengthen your relationship.

Appreciate his efforts: If he is doing something for you out of love or because he is worried for you. It is important to appreciate his efforts. If he is good with something like collecting something, or he is very organized or something which you think that you must acknowledge, so appreciate his efforts.

Appreciate his taste: We all have some special qualities and your husband must be having something special. If his fashion sense is outstanding and he is good with it, then don’t forget to mention it or appreciate it. If he is too foodie and loves to explore and experiment with food, or loves to explore new places, then appreciate him and enjoy his company.

Show your trust: No relationship can survive in the absence of trust and faith. Always show your trust and faith in him. When you discuss anything with him or he asked you to take some important decision because he thinks it is good for your family, then show your trust in his decision. While taking important decisions ask for his opinion and views. Take his help and show him that you believe in him.

Praise him for his decision-making ability: When he makes some important decisions like financial decision, professional decision or something else, respect his decision skills. In such situation where his decisions helped you to sail through bad time, don’t praise his decision-making skills. Show your trust in his right decisions.

Show him respect: Respecting your partner is very important. Respecting your partner doesn’t mean that you never say anything or put your opinion. Showing respect to your partner means you respect and love him for what he is. Make him feel that he is your hero and he is perfect for you. He must feel special and great for being what he is.

Don’t forget to compliment: If he is looking good, then don’t forget to tell him that he is looking handsome or great in your own ways. Complimenting your partner will help in strengthening your love with your partner.

Compliment his patience: For instance, if he is visiting some showroom with you to buy something and he is being patient with it then respects his patience. He will be more than receptive when your next request comes later on. Appreciating him and complimenting his effort will make him feel that he holds some special place in your heart and life.

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7 Things to Avoid on Matrimonial Sites Before Going on First Meeting

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Nowadays, matrimonial sites have replaced the aunties and uncles who used to play the role of marriage maker or mediator between the two families. These matrimonial websites are simple to use.  Anyone can easily create their matrimonial profile and search a partner. But, the main concern of all registered members of these websites is to find the genuine and authentic profile. When you find a matrimonial profile matching your partner preference criteria, the first thing you do is to contact that person. But, there are a few things you should keep in mind before fixing your first meeting with that prospective partner.

  1. Verify the profile: Once you receive an interest on your profile from a registered member, always verify the profile. It is very important for your own safety and security. Before accepting any matrimonial interest, you should always verify the profile details. Check whether the details mentioned in the matrimonial profile are true or not.
  2. Check the genuineness: This is another big thing, which you should keep in mind while accepting any interest request. Always check the genuineness of the profile. Try to find out whether all the details mentioned on the profile like contact details, address, permanent address, email id and social medial details are true and genuine. If the website has some verification tool, use that tool. matrimonial-sites-meeting-3
  3. Check the authenticity of photographs: A matrimonial profile with photograph receive more interest as compared to a matrimonial profile without photographs. Most of the people update their photographs on these sites with their family, friends, vacation, office and other. But, it is important that you check the authenticity of these photographs. Try to find out whether these photographs are genuine or edited by some other tool to beautify. Also find out whether these photographs are recent or older. It will also give you a sense about the genuineness of the profile.matrimonial-sites-meeting-5
  4. Visit social media profiles: Most of the people are very active on different social media websites. While checking any matrimonial profile, visit the social media profiles of that person. Don’t forget to visit the Facebook, twitter, linkedIn and other social media profiles. It will help in understanding his/her activities, interest and kind of person he/she is at personal level.
  5. Are you meeting the whole criteria: You must have visited his/her profile before accepting the matrimonial interest? It is always good if you read the partner preference well in advance. Try to analyze whether you are meeting his/her partner preference and vice-versa.  Don’t accept the meeting invitation because he/she looks good or financially well-off. Always pay attention to your choice and expectations from your future partner. A small hasty decision can create a lot of problem for you in the future. So, be specific with your preferences. Meet only those who are meeting at least 80%-90% of your partner preferences.matrimonial-sites-meeting-1
  6. Don’t get too personal before meeting: If you have done all the verification part and you are satisfied with his/her details, then you can take the next step. If you find that person genuine and reliable, then there is no harm in chatting with that person. But, always be smart in your conversation. Don’t just get swayed away with emotions and share too much personal things and information with him/her. This thing you should avoid in your initial conversations. Sharing your personal details can be used negatively and can be manipulated in long run. Therefore, to avoid any issue in future, just pay attention to your words and share only required information.matrimonial-sites-meeting-2
  7. Don’t meet until you are not confident: Whether you are chatting with him/her from last two weeks or two months, don’t jump into meeting decision too soon. Unless or until you are not fully sure don’t agree for the meeting. There are many people who just say yes to meet everyone without even analyzing their profile. They even hardly bother to check the authenticity of the profile and just say yes for the meeting. But, this is not the right approach. These websites offer you unlimited features and services, use them to the maximum and stay safe. Even if you decided to meet that person, don’t go alone. Tell about this meeting to your parents or ask your parent or sibling to accompany you to the meeting place to avoid any unwanted situation.

 

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