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Do You Think That Searching A Life Partner Is Really Tough?

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Have you crossed the age of 24 years and your whole family and relatives are after your life to get married? Do you want to look for a compatible and understanding partner, but not sure about how to search for a life partner? Searching a compatible life partner for kids is a war-level task for parents and they leave no stone unturned to find the most suitable partner for their child’s marriage. They spread this news with everyone that they are looking for a partner for their kids. “Bete/beti ki shaadi karni hai, koi rishta batana.” But do you think that finding a life partner with this conventional method is that easy? The whole process of arranged marriage is so tiring, cumbersome and full of hurdles from the day one to the final marriage day. Here, we are covering some topics giving jittery nights to all parents, but how matrimonial sites have made their life easy.

Searching a partner is “Total Siyapa”. In our country marriage is all about confusion and hurdles. Finding a life partner is not easy and simple. When you start your search, you come to know that it is really tough to find someone meeting your requirements with the help of relatives, friends and middle man. Rajni Kaur, Delhi, said, “Main apne bete ki shaadi ke liye ladki dekh rahi hun, ladki search karna total siyapa hai”. According to her, it is really tough to find someone who is equally compatible. But, now she has created a profile for her son on a matrimonial site, after meeting more than 10 girls referred through personal relations. She further added, “Saying no to someone from a known family is more difficult, rather than saying no to someone you meet through matrimonial site.”

Hello ji, fix ho gayi shaadi? This is one question which haunts all parents when they start the search which all friends and family members are aware of. Whether you are attending someone’s wedding or a family function, one question which everyone around will ask is  -  “Fix ho gayi shaadi?” It is something like their son or daughter is the only one left out without marriage. So, this question haunts them like anything. But, if you register with any matrimonial site you are not supposed to give reply to such questions because you are searching the partner at your ease where rest of the world is not involved in the search process. Moreover, you are not bothered to tell them about your search.

Tough call to take: When you start the partner search then it is really tough to decide and take a call to meet someone. The first step of meeting someone is really difficult, because you don’t want to meet each and every one. It is really difficult to decide who will be the perfect partner for their kid. Kamal Kumar Saini, Aligarh, said, “Humko to shaadi ke liye milne jane main badi tension hoti hai.” He further added, “ Kisi ko na bolna acha nahi lagta, aur jis se baat karo wo hi milne ke liye bolta hai. Bada mushkil hai sab.” So, as a parent you too don’t feel good to say no to someone because you don’t want to hurt the sentiments of others. But, if you register with a matrimonial site, you can meet only those whom you want to meet. You don’t need to meet someone if you are not fully convinced. Here you have freedom to ask for photographs, more information and talk to them online. So, if you are not happy with the details you can easily say no to someone and you are not required to meet someone.

Call, call and call everyone: The only thing you are doing on weekend is either making a call to someone regarding the marriage proposal or you attending a call from others for the same. This is really difficult to be on call all the time on weekends. But, if you register with matrimonial site, you make a call to only those whom you find suitable for you. You are not required to make random calls to get the basic information.

Meet the most eligible one: If you have registered with any of the matrimonial site you are not required to meet everyone, but you can meet only those who are meeting 100% of your requirements. Here you are not forced to meet someone because he is friend of your relatives or someone known. If you search a life partner through traditional way, you are expected to meet even those whom you do not find eligible, just for the sake of some middle man involved in the process. But, the best thing with matrimonial sites is you are not forced to meet someone if you don’t wish to. Sapna Mudgal, Mumbai, said, “I am fed up of meeting people on weekends as if I am showpiece. After registering with matrimonial site, my parents don’t force me to meet everyone as we first look at the details, and then only make a call to meet someone.” She also added, “Shaadi karna jaruri hai per inta bhi nahi ke har kisi se milte raho.”

Now it is tough to find someone: “Apni biradari mein to aap ko pata hi hai kitna mushkil hai shaadi karna is age mein”. This is one sentence which you all must have heard atleast once in your life if you have gone through the process of arranged marriage. If you reject four-five proposals, then you are labeled as someone who has high demands or people will comment like, “dimag kharab hai inka, inko koi nahi milega is tarah se shaadi karne ke liye.” But, thanks to these matrimonial websites which are savior for all. You can reject as many profiles as you want, till the time you don’t find someone most suitable. Moreover, you are not required to feel bad about anything.

Caste has everything to do with marriage: In arranged marriage caste plays a significant role. Most of the people want to find a suitable match within their caste. There comes a point when you don’t find a match within your caste and you open up for a prospective groom or bride from other castes, but hesitate to share the same with others. In such situation, matrimonial site helps you to search a life partner in different castes without any hurdle. These matrimonial websites offer you unlimited suitable matches in all castes. If you start searching a partner in another community and  your family and friends get to know, the first thing you will listen from them is “Inko shaadi nahi karni, bekar ka tamasha kar rahe hai, pahle hi pasand kar rakha hoga koi bachchon ne.” So, all this makes things more complicated for parents and even for the prospective bride or groom. On the other hand, these matrimonial sites don’t require such formalities except of filling some basic information to register with them.

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Ladies, Do You Have These Expectations from Your Fiancé?

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Courtship period in any relationship is one of the most beautiful times. You enjoy being in that relationship and you enjoy every bit of it. You want to spend a lot of time together. Either you are on phone or messaging something or other with him during the whole day to stay connected. Over a period of time, you feel connected and close to him. Eventually, you develop some expectations and expect him to fulfill those expectations. It is very much common in a relationship to expect things from your partner. Here are some common expectations ladies have from their fiancé during courtship period.

Instant Reply: This is something really common and most of us expect this from our partner. Whenever you sent him a text message or while chatting with him online you want him to reply back to you instantly. But, you should always remember that he has some job liabilities, so it is not possible that he will reply to you instantly all the time. So, in case he sends you a delayed reply, then don’t get annoyed with him, rather try to understand his situation.

Patient Listening: You always want him to listen to your thoughts calmly, even if you are talking something that doesn’t interests him. You expect him to understand your point and not to lose his temper because you are talking something which he doesn’t like. So, if you expect him to be patient with you, then he also expects the same from you. He is also new in this relationship, he too needs time to understand your thoughts and get used to it. If he is talking something which you don’t like or disagree, then put your point constructively, rather than losing your temper.

Well-behaved and courteous Behavior: You always want him to be courteous and well-behaved with you and with others as well. You never want your man to shout on you over anything. You want him to be polite and supportive. You always want him to behave well with you and never lose his temper and humiliate or insult you.

Deep level of understanding: For building a strong relationship, it is important that you build a strong understanding with him. Good level of understanding is important for a healthy relationship. You always want him to be understanding; similarly he wants the same from you. He also expects you to be supportive and understanding.

Respect for your parents: You always want that your partner should respect your parents. You expect your future husband to respect and love your parents the way you do. Similarly, he also expects you to respect his parents. Therefore, to establish a good relationship it is important that you respect each-other’s parents.

Punctuality: Are you planning to go out for dinner or for a movie? You want him to reach on time and don’t let you wait for a long time. You want him to value and respect your time and always reach on time if you make a plan. This is your responsibility as well to value his time and reach on time whenever he makes any plan. Always value the time because it shows how important the other person is in your life.

Loyalty and commitment: You always want him to be committed and loyal in this relationship. You never expect him to flirt with other ladies. You never want him to check out other girls when you two are together. You always want him to remain loyal and never cheat you under any circumstances.

Mutual Respect: For a strong relationship it is important to give respect to your relationship and your partner. You should always respect your partner not because he/she is your husband or wife, but as a person he has something valuable and important. Respect him/her for the qualities he/she has to enjoy a blissful relationship.  If you expect him to respect you, always remember that he too expects the same from you.

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5 Things To Notice In Your Man Before Taking The Wedding Vows

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Marriage is something you think about day and night and feel butterflies in your stomach if you are about to get married soon. This is a transitional phase in one’s life, you feel excited and nervous at the same time. At times, you doubt your own decision of marrying your ‘Mr. Charming’. But, this is very common thought and everyone has more or less similar kind of feelings when it comes to marriage. Therefore, it becomes more important to choose the right kind of man and say yes to someone who is just perfect for you and most compatible. Always ensure that you find someone who is willing to give his 100% to this relationship and equally devoted. Here are five things that you should look for in your man before taking the wedding vows.

Keen to know more about your interests: He is the one, who is always keen to know more about your interest. He likes to get involved in different activities with you. He always tries hard to adapt to your habits and trying his level best to make a pace with you. Whenever you meet him, he always shows his interest in knowing more about your liking, interest, friends, hobbies and other things related to you. He likes to listen to your thoughts and always respects your opinion.

Willing to make changes: He is not rigid with his thoughts and expectations, and is always willing to make changes if required. He is not a kind of guy who always cribs that because of you he has not been able to go out to watch a match with his guy’s gang or something similar.  Besides, he makes you feel important and always shows that meeting you is important than anything else. He always shows his interest in making changes in his routine if situation comes, he never says no to try something new or experimenting with something because he doesn’t want to miss even a single opportunity to spend time with you.

Always shows his commitment: He always shows his commitment in his actions and words. He always introduces you to his friends proudly and never hesitates in accepting this relationship publicly. This clearly reflects in his gestures and expressions that he is happy with this relationship. He never wants to hide you and this relationship from anyone. He always accompanies you at social gatherings and family functions. Whenever he is out with you, he is more focused on you and his eyes never move here and there.

Concerned about you: He is always concerned about you, your safety, health and other things. He never misses a single opportunity to show his genuine concern. Whenever you are late from office he offers to drop you or make calls to ensure that you reach home safely. He always keeps you first and thinks about your requirements first compared to his requirements. He doesn’t mind to make adjustments in his routines to make you feel comfortable. Making changes and alterations never annoys him, he is always open for such changes.

Emotionally connected with you: He is emotionally connected with you and shares a good level of emotional bonding. He never hesitates to express his thoughts openly and shows his concern. He always tries to understand your point and find solutions to your problems. He never feels irritated listening to your thoughts. You can trust him anytime.

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Are People Nagging You to Get Married? Deal the Pressure Smartly

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If you are in a marriageable age and still single then for sure you must be feeling the pressure to get married and settle down. The pressure to get married is not limited to Hindu, Sikh or Jain or to some other community, but it real and visible across all the classes and caste. Irrespective of the facts like educational background, working status, gender or financial status, the pressure to get married is affecting the life of every youngster. It is not that the women in marriageable age are facing such pressure, but men are not even unaffected with it. However, we can’t change the mindset of people, but we can even try to make them understand the point of waiting for the right person not the right time. But, this is again a very tricky affair and there are chances that you will face reverse effects of the same. The best you can do is to devise some strategies to deal with this pressure without even making big fuss about it. Here, we are sharing some points to deal with the pressure to get married and enjoy your bachelorhood.

Be sure what you want: Before reaching to any point or conclusion, it is better to be sure what you want in your life. Are you happy with your present life? What are the reasons behind not getting married? Do you want to get married soon or not? What are your life partner preferences? What do you think about married life? If you know the answer of these questions and you know what exactly you want in life, then it is worth waiting for the right person. So, before accepting or rejecting some marriage proposal, it is better that you are 100% sure what you are doing and what you want in your life.

Be logical: When you say no to any proposal or ask your parents to give you some more time as you don’t want to get married, then be logical with your replies and approach. If you will give them lame excuses and tell them that you don’t want to get married because you are not ready for it, or your friends are still single. This is not very convincing point for your parents. So, if you do not want to get married right now, give them convincing logic.

Explain with patience: If you don’t want to get married now, explain it to your parents. If they are pressurizing you to get married soon and giving their own logics for getting married and you are in no mood to settle down now, have patience and explain them your point. Be clear about your thoughts and don’t get hyper or irritated while explaining your point to your parents or your friends because your anger might annoy them.

Be honest: It is important that you to remain honest in your thoughts and approach. Don’t beat around the bushes and talk about something irrelevant. If you are in a marriage relationship with someone and he/she is asking for some time to take the next step, told this to your parents why you need more time and be honest with them. If you want to focus more on your career right now and want to settle down financially before getting married, be clear about and make them understand your point. So, it is important to be honest in your approach.

Love marriage/arranged marriage: Are you sure you want to do love marriage or arranged marriage? Be sure what you want in life. If you are sure about that there is no one in your life and you want to do arranged marriage only, make it clear to your parents as well that you will go for arranged marriage only. There is no one in your life and you will tie the knot with their wishes. It will not create any confusion in their mind that you are postponing marriage because of other reasons.

Don’t feel friend’s pressure: This is another pressure which most of the youngster feel. At times, you feel so stressed because all your friends give you many reasons why you should tie the knot. They want you to enter into the married club because they all are married and you are single. If you are comfortable with your single friends, enjoy their company. Don’t stress yourself unnecessary.

Advantages of being single: If you want to wait take some more time to settle down, don’t worry about others and enjoy your bachelorhood. It is great to be single. No matter, you are 25years or 35 years and still single, there is no harm in it. There are a lot of things which you can experience and enjoy being single. Every phase of life has its own advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, finding the right partner is more important than getting married with wrong one. Enjoy your life to the fullest and have fun with friends and family.

Be open with ideas: This is another thing on which you should work upon. Be open with different ideas. If you are in a relationship and your boyfriend or girlfriend wants some time before meeting your parents or getting married, be open with it. Don’t force your partner to marry soon. If your fiancée/fiancé wants to postpone the marriage for a few months or a year then be open with that idea.

Communicate well: Communication is the key for any strong relationship. It is better to communicate well your thoughts and ideas with people. If you will not reply to their questions or don’t make your point clear why you don’t want to settle down now, it will further create confusion and irritate them. Therefore, communicate well about your thoughts and feeling, rather than avoiding conversation.

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6 Most Irritating Habits of Women Increasing Frustration of Their Husbands

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Marriage is a two-way communication and no marriage can survive without good bonding and healthy communication. Most of the time, we hear and read about how wives feel irritated or frustrated with their husband’s habits. But, have you ever realized how a man feels over the different habits his wife? How does he feel when she did something irritating? In our recent conversation with a few married men, we find that women too leave no stone unturned to irritate their counterparts. They do enjoy a lot of things and husbands work as fixers for their habits. Here, we are sharing some glimpse of our conversation with them and their personal experiences.

Bad driving sense: “Females are considered as bad drivers and my wife proves it again and again by hitting my car with something or other frequently”, Ramesh Shukla, Chandigarh, told this to us. He further added, “She has very bad driving sense and whenever she is supposed to park the car in parking, she surely hit the car. This irritates him a lot and most. You feel like not to give her the the key, still you have too.” This is one thing which irritates most of the males because they love their car and a single scratch on their favorite machine can make their heart sink.

Treating like a kid: You love being pampered, but not all the time. When your wife treats you like a kid all the time it irritates you most.  Sandeep Singh, Gurgaon, mentioned, “I know I don’t help her in many things at home. But, if she instructs me all the time what I should, what not, or what to wear and what to eat? It annoys me.” You feel being loved and care, but it doesn’t mean that your partner will tell you what you should and how you should it like we instruct our kids. This kind of behavior irritates many men.

Nagging and endless calls: You love when someone loves you and cares for you, but at the same time being over-concerned and bottling up things with a lot of love can be annoying. Anuj Yadav, Lucknow, told, “ My wife loves me so much, but at times this SO MUCH love irritates me like anything. If I don’t pick her call because I am busy in meeting, she will keep on calling till the time I don’t pick the call and tell her that will call you back.” He further added, “Every day she makes more than 20 calls to me to know my whereabouts and what I am doing.” This is really irritating and annoying for many males because they feel that their wives are not giving them enough space and nagging them by making endless calls.

Trail of questions: This is one of the most common habits of females and they ask you end number of questions in whole day. It makes many men angry because they got irritated with endless questions and counter questions. Yugant Rajput, Mumbai, said, “My wife asks me endless questions. First, she will ask a question and when you reply to that you will bombard me with other counter questions. This is our daily routine. In case, I miss answering something, then I have to face another ten questions on that.” This is really irritating and annoying for almost all men. If you too have same habit, work on this because it might be your man also got irritated with your trial-sessions.

Nothing is enough for them: Most of the men do feel that whatever they do for their lady love is not enough for them. Generally, wives criticize their husbands about so many small and big things. They hardly appreciate them for anything, whatever they do, they face criticism. Arun Nair, Hyderabad, said, “At times, I feel so frustrated because she is never happy with whatever I do. If I buy something for  her, rather than appreciating it, she will focus more on the price, quality, brand and 100 other things about it, to let me know that how I wasted my money.” Most of the wives forget to appreciate the efforts of their husbands and divert their focus on other things and annoyed them.

Not paying attention to advice: This is another common trait of females which annoy husband’s many times. Men liked to be consulted if you are going to do something important, but if you are ignoring them or their advice, then for sure you are raising their eyebrows. This will irritate him like anything. This will give him a sense that you don’t value him and his words. Ronak Mishra, Delhi, said, “Whatever I will advise or suggest to my wife she will do opposite to it. This irritates me like anything.” It is good to be independent and self-dependent, but listening to your husband’s advice will not harm you anyway.

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